The author received throughout the land young people’s massive psychological consultation letter in recent years, about 5O% reflected the question and between teenage boys and girls’ opposite sex contact concerned. For example, some middle school male students and the girlfriend steal the food forbidden fruit, he said: Had first time, but also wants to have second, the third time; Some female middle school hosts obtain the boyfriend to caress perhaps to have the sex act, thinks of the night on the date to want to hope that with the boyfriend appointment, causes the academic record to drop again. The certain City hospital’s partial statistics also showed that now unmarried young people being pregnant occupies the induced abortion to decide the number above 5O%, smallest has 33 years old, threaten seriously their health. The young people men and women often likely are want to worship 1000 mystical fairylands to be the same, do not hesitate all prices to taste the forbidden fruit; This behavior is the very weak behavior actually. The sex act will bring the following psychological experience evil at least before the wedding: Lamentation; Feeling of guilty and ashamed feeling; Individual barrier to growth; Loses the self-respect and the dead weight feeling; Henceforth is afraid to the sentiment is earnest; The anxiety is possibly pregnant or infection venereal diseases; In the human communication has the doubt and alerts excessively; The personality is dissolute; Despondent and even suicide and so on. If before you and the contemporaries discuss, debate a marriage beneath one’s station the sex act, certainly may summarize the 1O strip above harm. Protect regarding natural item of I, some people can do quite well, that is one kind of will strength. But speaking of each person, is also “is not similarly easy”. In what situation does the rejection want easily? Is you dresses the neat time: Takes off clothes’ time? If you were determined that did not choose “before the wedding nature”, do not bridge over that boundary, in the time, the place, the clothing, in the appointment way might create protects own environment. Especially in the middle-school student time, should better not want the male and female independent appointment.
Sometimes certainly, specially wants to say with the opposite sex friend own words at heart, do not hope the third party to hear, was also by now easiest to fall deeply in love, how should that cause itself maintains a reason?
It is not may not two people talk absolutely, is only must learn practicing moderation and calm. For instance at home talks, chooses in the family some people in home’s time, and must the room gate unlatched; If talks in outside, choice daytime, but is not the too late time, to relatively peaceful, but open environment. In brief, so long as you want to be good beforehand, have the strong will, will not have the matter which should not occur.
Regardless of men and women, so long as you have this determination and the defense line, you have the right, also to have the enough ability to reject others’ natural request, like this you will not become before the wedding the chaotic sacrificial victim, might do unflustered remains pure and incorruptible. To love match’s age, you will also double experience yourself to take the maiden or virgin’s true value.
The teenage boys and girls “the nature from protects the special action”, is the protect guard youth, also will be the protect guard future.
