Hymen = the value of women?
There are more than 50 days to go before the college entrance examination, the text but also how their hearts no less than heart-to review homework. Originally, she suddenly remembered his six years old, was a 18-year-old boy raped. She is worried that the rupture of the hymen to be passed matriculation examination, not more worried about their own future boyfriend. Text heart in the letter and repeatedly asked, “whether I am a virgin or not? My experience will affect the future of marriage? ”
From a physiological point of view, the text of heart worry is unnecessary. Generally, the girls during childhood and school-age immature genital and deeper position hymen, vaginal stenosis, adult penis inaccessible, so even if being molested, raped, rarely occurred ruptured hymen. Meanwhile, the examination of any domestic (including checkups) do not check hymen.
From a psychological perspective, the text suffered heart damage is incalculable. Because of this experience so heart-felt themselves no longer pure, good boys do not deserve love. Most share similar experiences of the girls have their own despair for the future, they hope even advertisements on the “hymen repair,” We hope that through a surgery and the period of shame experiences, regain possession love and be loved like rights.
However, the hymen-layer coverage in the vagina film I really can carry all of a female life worth?
In our society, many people still value represented by the hymen “virginity”, and therefore the text hearts were right on the worries of the future appear to be so natural, so can understand.
In some countries, people are accustomed to referring to the integrity of the hymen as a virgin markings, some countries believe that the hymen is mysterious, its destruction is risky, is a sin. Therefore, if a girl’s hymen had been broken before marriage, she would be tortured, or even killed. The pair also have some of that intersection man with a virgin can maximize the use yin yang, who completed longevity …
However, sex and medical development today, it is increasingly clear understanding that these concepts are not correct. Based on the clinical observation and research, gynecologist can you describe hymen of the 17 forms and its causes, at the first sexual intercourse were bleeding is one of them. For example, some people born without hymen, some people in the first place, fierce campaigns were torn, some people hymen congenital gap larger than pine … these women in the wedding night may not bleeding and pain. In addition, sex is dedicated to the activities, and the quality of the hymen itself irrelevant. Women can be seen by the absence of the hymen rupture or suffer humiliation and abuse, is not justified, but not fair society.
My sexual sociologist Professor Pan Sui-ming pointed out that if we go to sexual activity and gender power relations level, we will find that the traditional male-dominated society is not appreciated hymen itself, but use it to oppression of women.
Look around us social reality and how we can not doubt the thesis of Professor Pan. How many have premarital or extramarital sexual relations of men worry that their “unclean” unable to face the future girlfriend and wife? Because he would point his finger at the media and not “married” person? A man can “in a number of lovers before marriage, the marriage has several Valentine, but only at the time of marriage, and so we need not have been more pure-pure wife women”, but his wife had to own the “chastity” full responsibility … So, the community has become hymen double Road Germany physiological basis of the standard, the community has become very depressed and shackled women sexual natural reasons.
Pan Ming-sui Professor further stated that if a person, a society still believe that the hymen what is the value, then the people or the community is definitely still inequality between men and women. Gender inequality in a society, there is no sincere love speaking. More emphasis on social and moral values of the hymen, the more women desperately want to hold onto this Road “last line of defense”, the more necessary it is to say, so long as the film did not break, what other activities can be done.
Pan Ming-sui Professor in 1991 and 1995 respectively survey of all university students in Beijing, found a real sexual intercourse (ruptured hymen course), only 8-9%, However, there have been various acts of sexual foreplay people was as high as 30%. Even in the six months before the survey within a sexual caressing the real intercourse than a lot of people three times. Here the sexual foreplay, kissing or more, until both genital exposure did not insert the various acts. From the point of view of sex, caressing acts of sexual intercourse with a genuine, can also trigger an orgasm, sexual gratification, as well as the letter “of having sex.” However, according to the social norm, the two sides how caressing, loving embrace deep, the two sides are still “honest”. The results, some people in order to maintain the “virgin” and even oral sex and anal intercourse have done, except no penetration of the vagina, so they will continue to revel in their “virginity” at home.
Such “technical virginity”, the “narrow chastity” Is it not enough hypocrisy, enough ridiculous? Modern Chastity is, what should be? It should not form the hymen is intact, but should love the loyalty, but this loyalty should be mutual.
Those in the young girls are raped instead of “unchastity”, but due to their inability to protect themselves suffered an injury, regardless of whether her hymen rupture, she has been hurt by the deepest. This is not the nature of injury, but her human rights. If you love others were beaten and injured, the most direct response is doubt he (she) lost loyalty to you?
Not every occurrence of premarital sexual relations are girls love infidelity. If we have more and deeper human understanding, we will find that out of frustration, powerlessness, helplessness and ignorance, in a certain context the choice is understandable and forgivable. It is perhaps this experience, a person learned to cherish love and be loved.
From a human rights perspective, a person is not entitled to ask him (or her) wife in marriage to him (her) to maintain loyalty. However, he (she) to the other side of the marriage of their loyalty. Of course, everyone needs at any time to carefully make their own decisions, but not to others but to themselves.
