Often some people said: “the man always longed for becomes him to love the woman’s first man, but the woman is the hope can become her man’s last woman. “this view in some sense perhaps reflected the difference which in has loved in the way which between the men and women exists. Indeed, the man in the heart of hearts always longed for that becomes him woman’s initial man, this is the maiden complex which we said. At the traditional wedding ceremony, the bridal body throws over the pure white busy nuptial dress, symbolizes her to offer for spouse’s innermost feelings and the human body the nuptial dress which throws over with her is the same, has no time chastely.
This kind esteems maiden’s idea, until now was still being followed.
If groom’s family before engagement hears such as: “feeds, the boy, is careful the spot, that woman may have many bordered news.” Or ” that woman before has such one with someone ” and so on to concern the object rumor, will be then weak, even finally will therefore initiate the matter which the engagement will fizzle out also when will have hearing.
If the bride’s side is not the maiden, even if then after perhaps in the modern age, marries, must have troublesome. Compares, the female appears very light to man’s chastity request; In the female, nobody requests its marriage partner to nearly retain the chastity.
Actually then between the men and women in this kind of chastity idea’s difference is for what reason fresh?
In seeks the maiden man’s heart of hearts, to has not been bribed besides that one human the thing expectation, but also hides was longing for will like woman idea which organizes according to own wish. To be specific, this has contained man’s one kind of anticipation, namely: “if can with maiden’s female contact, then she not can look like the tentative plan to be such mature in the natural aspect?”
But trades an angle to consider, we will discover in this idea also hid one kind to think the man could have one’s wish transforms the woman, and regarded as toys’ male point of view the woman.
Said the toys perhaps too, but the man hoped that he is in the whip hand this idea, is truly undeniable.
To the virginity excessive esteem phenomenon, as well as thought that the man can have one’s wish transforms woman’s idea, appears after the middle ages Kamakura time. They have been fixed along with the warrior social order’s establishment down. May say that they are androcracy’s products. About this point, participated in the feminine liberation movement feather to thank the crystallite once saying:“is very obvious, to the virginity respect, is the men demands the result. “she thought that the so-called chastity and the maiden complex just are man’s desire unilaterally.
This assertion is correct, regarding this does not have slightly the rebuttal leeway. But when we start explores the esteem virginity man’s inner world, we will discover is hiding one kind of deep restlessness, namely they worried, if opposite party is not a maiden, then has the possibility depth the former experience influence, got in former days boyfriend’s natural custom brand mark deeply, and could be too mature in the natural aspect.
The man is unable to endure is done in the natural aspect by the girlfriend with she beforehand boyfriend the comparison, this lacks with the man in the natural aspect concerns self-confidently. Therefore speaking of the man, pursues the chaste maiden’s psychology behind, in fact is also hiding male aspect uneasy and weak, therefore, cannot equate simply the maiden complex to pure sentiment yearning.
In the modern society, thought before the marriage, must be the maiden body’s female already is the reduction greatly. Before the marriage, the love is multiple, the same proper name man has the relational female not to be rare. On the other hand, although many male hoped associates the female is the maiden, but they already realized that to this has been not too possible in the practical life.
Even if so, the man obstinately in feminine maiden, always wants to confirm that opposite party is the daughter body. This point is not really easy to do. The experienced man regards as another matter, must let one man who understands very little to the female make this matter, not possibly approaches.
The reason that such said that is because in the real life exists disguises as the maiden consciously the female, no matter does this is for the time being to or wrong, its final effect is often different from person to person, mostly is decided by individual judgment. Therefore, although the majority of men hoped that the bride’s side is maintaining the daughter body, but if, if not for, they also can only ask the price with no intention of buying the front tooth to swallow toward the stomach, in addition, no other other choices.
But regardless of the man also good woman, did not want her lover still maintained with the beforehand lover the old feelings remain after a severed relationship the relations. When specially discovered that the lover is also retaining when had when the sexual affection clear recollection with the former days boyfriend, nearly does not have a man to be possible to endure. No matter the girlfriend is this time beautiful intelligently, the man will therefore not forgive her. Generally speaking, the man is one kind of animal, once therefore has lost to others in the natural aspect, he will feel that will lose the completely honor.
The marriage and the love, have the time which smooth and is not suitable. Marries after own affection’s person, actually discovered that opposite party does not suit itself, subsequently has the loathing feeling example not to be rare. However from man’s angle, if can determine opposite party when with own contact is a maiden, then he has thought from now on ” she her first time offered has given I “, will thus have the tolerant manner to the girlfriend.
Speaks of here, the topic shifts. Before, once had a doctor in Tsukuba to kill the wife the event. About the committing a crime motive, many people thought that is the husband too detests to the wife former opposite sex relations causes. Doctor’s wife the year summary is bigger than doctor, is one character and style ten thousand kind, the rich charm females, has the exceptionally rich natural experience. At first, doctor moves for its wild uninhibited sex appeal, but after marrying, along with argument increase, the opposite sex contact history which the wife passes starts to stimulate doctor’s nerve. Doctor suspected: The reason that the wife so is rich in the sex appeal, is because once had had the sexual relationship in the past with the man of all forms, but these love matters in secret are causing until now still trouble, she simply does not make my this husband’s being serious. Doctor also felt that the wife is being unceasingly him with its beforehand boyfriends the comparison, treats as the fool him to play a trick on.
This dangerous mood saves unceasingly, erupted finally in one day.
If the female in revealed carelessly goes abroad on a diplomatic mission the male to lose the self-respect manner, will then often cause the man therefore to receive the injury, will cause him becomes is rich in the retaliatory nature, some people will even meet the use violence method to give vent by the chart. At the above event’s behind, has man’s this kind of complex psychology to stir up trouble.
The reason that the man so obstinately and is terribly suspicious and fearful repeatedly in feminine chastity, is because man’s sex act receives the mood control to a great extent, and does not decide along with myself energetic condition fluctuation.
Let our concrete study masculine sex act process. First when the bride’s side rejects carries on with it the exchange, he will feel very anxiously. In other words, when the groom’s family requests to make love, but the bride’s side is only makes some kind of degree the compliance, or simply does not give the response, then the matter did not have the later word. So long as does not resort to rape, no matter then how the groom’s family does insist to request, perhaps between both’s sex act smoothly will not develop. After breaking through the first difficulty, the man faces whether is the difficult problem its weapon enters the battle condition smoothly. Went to bed with great difficulty with the beloved female, removes completely clothes to enter the sexual intercourse condition immediately, actually suddenly discovered that oneself lost the battle efficiency example also to have.
Once the man produced such as ” this woman should not metropolitan examination excessively many patterns ” either ” perhaps she before I remarried compared to the same period can the man has fallen in love ” or ” think that I was very clumsy ” this kind of distracting thoughts, then his body naturally will then become these imperative idea influence does not listen to direct.
Without a doubt, this to the man is the most ashamed scene, let the bride’s side accept itself with great difficulty, but were actually unable to make the corresponding response, like this, man’s honor will forfeit, oneself will also receive the suspicion as the male ability. But matter’s result often is also this: A time defeat can incur from now on a succession of defeat, thus forms the vicious circle.
If opposite party is a maiden, even if has been defeated, is also immaterial. Because has no need to worry that oneself will be compared with she beforehand boyfriend. Looked for one such as ” the tonight to be a little tired casually ” or ” drank a many point slightly ” and so on excuse, might dodge.
The reason that the man pays great attention the virginity, is also because they have this kind to prepare mishap’s relieved feeling. The man likes the manner mild-mannered and cultivated pure sentiment female, not only as a result of its graceful makings, moreover because also the innermost feelings have this kind of kind of anticipation: The hope when shares the bed is happy, such female will not display goes too far. Moreover even if the man displays not good, opposite party will not complain. On the contrary, if meets the female who the rich experience, experiences for a long time the sandy plain, some men will fill from the very beginning then the worry, because subsequently will lack self-confidently is battle-shy finally runs away.
This perhaps merely reason in man aspect deciding subjectively. However, the man holds this sense of fear truly, worried that female has the relations after some male, on her body will leave behind this man’s trace, prolonged needless. Trades one view, what the man worried after is the men and women has the relations, the female will become this man’s private property, never will forget that “that attentive”, forever will harbor to him rigid.
Before the middle ages knight goes to battle, lets the wife put on the chastity belt, is for avoids itself not at the time, the wife has the relations with others, otherwise living, oneself may loses the completely honor.
The man adopts generally in the sexual affection initiative, and take can bring joyfully to the bride’s side as a happy event. Not only to the man, the nature joyful lies in semination that flash, develops woman’s natural sensitive area which one love, bestows it by the pleasant sensation, causes her to become own captive, is also one kind of nondescriptive joy. In brief, after the so-called man is one kind only then courses the female the sexual climax, oneself can obtain the genuine natural pleasant sensation, the biology which is insatiably greedy in the sexual affection, copes with difficulty.
If the woman obtains from other man there the pleasant sensation is bigger than, to the man who oneself give, this without doubt is one kind of heavy losses. Because it denied completely has been infatuated with Yu Xing man’s existence value. Therefore, felt regarding the restless man is always hard to solve to girlfriend’s past events, hoped the marital companion is never bribed by other people. They are seeking are still maintaining diligently the maiden body’s female.
To here, we have understood: The so-called man’s maiden complex, in fact is related with the men frail sensitive nerve, it just is the thing which these not mature, the self-awareness intense men one-sided wish hope.
Recently, in the female, for oneself maiden felt that not the comfortable person starts to increase very much, maiden’s value with before compared dropped many. For all that so long as man’s virility still fluctuation does not decide, no matter then how others did propose such as ” to maiden’s excessive esteem is the masculine society’s product ” and so on critique opinion, the maiden complex never will also abate, it has hidden in man’s heart of hearts.
