Misunderstandings hymen, the discussion
No matter how we criticized the feudal concept of chastity, it is undeniable that most Chinese still groom to the bride’s great chastity.
We defer discussion of a moral issue, just ask the groom 1 : What is your method used to determine whether the bride “virginity”?
Traditionally, the groom with a lot of “red” and not, or whether the ruptured hymen to decide.
So I ask you : you can tell the hymen seven different situation and the formation of the reasons?
Again I ask you : Do you really know who is a gynecologist how to check?
Then you have the number of gynecological examinations of practical experience?
The most critical is that I ask you : in the first one-time life as a very exciting moment, whether you use what magical “gong” if they make their case calmly, looking forward, like a commodity inspection to check the bride?
I hate to guess your body or mind what the patient, but I can be sure of : you do not love her.
In recent days, many feel that the groom and the bride is too shy, too active, too will meet, it is suspected that her “virginity” off. Some people even think that the bride is struggling to resist a problem.
But I ask you : You said that the “proactive” is a kind of standards, or, you know how this is called “active”?
“Shy” and “complement” the same reason. If your own sexual experience is not very rich, the judge how you will be so well known? You have to know is how the “purity” of the bride should be what kind?
Some groom and the bride hear filed past her male classmates or their male colleagues, on suspicion her “virginity” off. Not to mention there is no evidence that such doubts in itself shows that the women do not know the groom too general psychology.
The free love and get married, the bride will say many a past story, but often not consciously exaggerated.
But this is the first to you “table loyal,” subtext is : “Do not be how he is, I still love you”; The second is the “presentation” you, because she would like to hear you on the matter of jealousy, for example, “to dare son, I slaughtered him.”
She is married to the pledge, the general presentation and much more reliable. Other not, otherwise, why should she mention to you this paragraph?
Some of the groom not only stupid casually determined, but it fools even blame the bride abandoned bride. People said : “Ningxinshengangui.” This method not only easily found innocent of the bride, and often needlessly caused to groom their heart disease.
Therefore, we would advise such a groom, not to keep imagining, in order to avoid harm to the people concerned have, the better their ruined marriage.
