Evolve regulation according to the biology, person an arrive puberty, increase along with the secretion of endocrine hormone, start appear sexuality and to sex problem of the concern be very natural.Clashing, antagonism because of inborn or the day after tomorrow the mess of the endocrine etc. reason, can with the result that sexual organ dysplasia, or because of society, family of bring up not appropriate, can also with the result that sex mind evolve detuning or metamorphosis, puberty of the sex sensitive be an one of them.
Raise two examples here.
A senior high school female student write a letter the self-statement say:”I this year be 16 years old, the beginning wades life, to some affairs still see not and deeply, think not and deeply.I want to ask, why the boy in nowadays expresses the attitude in different past of proptosis to the girl.One of my cousin is so and we unrestrainedly and together played in childhood, also had 1 to compare my big and 1-year-old cousin and everyone say that smile was happy.But grew up now, on the contrary different.Everyone says my shape like, the person is beautiful, again kind ……hence the cousin see I be like star and buy thing to send to me every day.I ask him why is not to the elder sister, he says “she is unqualified”!I am really not understand, why be the cousin unqualified to enjoy these materials?I feel a perplexity.Still have, why meeting be someone so interested in our girl?That a day that is a before month evening, there is in the sky no moon, only empty and countable and a few starses.(this isn’t the gloomy prospects which has intention to depiction, but true)I demulcent therapy, reconciliation a female classmate of the class go to the stool, at this time, I see a wall best to be like once a thing move, I a burst of strain, thoughted of devil, the in the mind is really frightened, but cannots help but and sees one eye, black Gu Long Dong in that clear is a face of male classmate, frighten I shout loudly 1.Then, my heart whole days all jump in the Dong Dong, once in a very long while can’t pipe down.Somehow or other, I see male classmateses all frightened now, don’t be peeping me while seeming to their eyes to have no and hide and hide not to drop.For this, my learning enthusiasm is completely canceled, even want to drop out, drop out from school, but have an antinomy again, because I can not control feelings ground or think a school everyday, think that those everydays looking at my male classmate, at frightened of remaining, have one species unspeakable taste.”
A 19-year-old university boy writes a letter to consult with to say:”I am a very introverted person, since the childhood under daddy’s mama’s strict education, knew to study, study.Pass colleges entrance examination, come out family for the first time, the world seem very unfamiliar to me, everythings all feel fresh, but feel terrible and unfathomable again.The female classmate of the inside of the class is a lot of, serious, they each all is like a flower, be so beautiful and charmingly feminine, the male classmate of not a few big city City demulcent therapy, reconciliation they say that make, dance a frolic together, I always want to learn how to go to with them close they, but make a deep red face each time, even have never wait close full upper part of root or rhizome big night sweat, is this my depressed pole.Proceed from drive of physiology, I sometimes masturbate, want to use imagination to satisfy oneself, but the after the event always feel regret demulcent therapy, reconciliation empty.Dream once, don’t know where come of courage, I incredibly embraced a female classmate ……came to still have a lingering fear behind, felt that oneself did a bad matter.At the daytime, because of always enjoying in retrospect the matter in the dream, slowly the brain appeared 1 to want to embrace a chemisette mind.Only on seeing female classmate, this kind of bad mind appear, but I am very understand, this kind of viewpoint immorally wants to commit crime, but be overcome not to live, with the result that I have to whole day lie to receive an upper part of root or rhizome sleeping in the dormitory, the most afraid see a woman.I am painful already very, how also get away from not to drop this kind of mind.I thoughted of a suicide, want to punish himself/herself with the dead ……”
See from surface, what the former suffer from is “social intercourse phobia”, afraid see opposite sex;The latter forces a disease and have already notted suppress to live of viewpoint, but investigate its source, all is because sex mind evolves “sex sensitive disease” that the arrearage result in.Evolve slow reason mainly is the earlier period sex education which lacks to arrive puberty this stage from the childhood.Some parents often with own early years experience and traditional of bring up a way, carry on half to the sons and daughters ignorant of control.Its scientific knowledge as to it’s widely open the door road, but to the knowledge concerning person give a blocking, the effect is in probably tall person’s a head of of the body and the intelligence, but the sex mental level then be usually lower than normal.Let these children take a lot of trouble to cut and polish quest in the puberty with it, with the result that in the fan the Mang metamorphosis, why not let them under the correct sex education to transfer smoothly?
The first girl is be placed in sex to sprout period, have already started notice a male to pay attention to her, mentally produce a different perception, what does this kind of perception mean?She also cans not remember clearly Chu.The second boy, obviously is because parent excessively the atresia type bring up to make it lack normal human relations association with the result that.Distinction between sexes parents only tells that his ising a male is a female, , but do not tell him the man and the chemisette social role and everything of future development.Have thus a fact, the important meaning of interpretable earlier period sex education.The person lived on the Sa Mo subpopulation island of south Pacific Ocean, there is a traditional social customs, be a kid at about 10 years old is teach by the parents with relevant sex knowledge, like boy’s nocturnal emission, girl’s menstruation, mensis with go to matrimony and grow an etc., therefore, after being grow up, they don’t see men and women’s this matter mysterious unfathomable, everythings are all so natural.Seldom discover that the little male young girl contains annoyance of sex problem while investigating the spirit health of their young man condition.In other words, they pass the sex education in earlier period and acquired “the day after tomorrow immunity”.
Modern outstanding psychoanalysis enzymology Fu Luo in the house the Yi was virtuous to once say and was pen more of the thing be more the thing that people look forward to.Once this kind of durance and the occurrence conflict of the biology regulation, in order to lacking a correct induction and regulating ability by one’s own, then usually sink into anxiety, it then becomes a species living creature to try to as a result demulcent therapy, reconciliation the opposition condition of of social norm, this would be sex sensitive disease occurrence of mechanism.
So, how prevent°from the teenager’s sex allergy?The key is a sex education and this kind of education wants to begin from 3.One is basic sex physiology knowledge, two is the mental feature of puberty men and women, three is sexual society and morals to realize.The adults should know, get into puberty men and women, all have an own heart world, was full of imagination and sensual desire, but seldom revealed toward the parents in they the blocking of the world and one fraction begs it to naturally let out or increase in the depression and a fraction may then pour out the companion and the bosom friend and acquire comprehension and comprehend from the mutual exchanges respectively of the experience.So some parents don’t know that the mind of the sons and daughters took place at all what breakdown, know perfectly well the emotion wrong upper part of root or rhizome, also could not cross-examine why, hence have to permissive disregard, as long as the top of the behavior didn’t be excrescent and then was satisfied with.
Depend on who to set free this kind of pain and sufferings?That only sought a mental doctor.The men and women teenager who there is sex sensitive, should seek a mental doctor to carry on a consultation in time, put forward all of the viewpoint and the problem, then listen to the doctor’s mental instruction.Belong to the general sex sensitive(such as the first) passes by to appease, will turn for the better very quickly.Will adopt the measure that the psychotherapy gives attention to both with drug therapy to the special circumstances(such as the second).Pass drug relief anxiety, strain and fear a response, reaction first, then carry on a behavior therapy.(mainly is a system desensitization and relax training)In fact, the one who have to force a thinking disease, few behavior problem happen, so have no necessity to worry to will do the proptosis illegal action.Extensive association with express feeling, the various knowledge is with the spacious visual field, Vf, this locking up a heart gateway will automatically open and make person of the mood lucidity get up.So-called society and morals realize that become in the process of mutually adapting with society.The society has already done reasonable of the everyone accept of standard, that has no necessity again for oneself plus the 1 F monastic rules regulations, the solid step isolated one-self from the thought.
