The time changes, many ideas also change. But these change’s idea, has one side which it progresses, also has one side which it falls behind. Since ” sexual liberation ” movement, the people to the nature the view, have had the very big change, it once promoted the social civilization development, but, also has brought many social questions. According to statistics: The US has 1,000,000 young girls unmarried to be pregnant first every year; Sweden has 57% male middle-school students and 46% female middle-school students has the sex act experience. Some people once in our country Taiwan area, had made the disposable idea investigation to the university student, the approximately 20% university students have had the sexual intercourse history. Although this digit is anxious, but with overseas compares, our country’s feudalistic thinking, the sex act aspect played certain role before the wedding in the impediment. Looking from doctor the standpoint, was before the wedding holds the negative manner regarding the sexual intercourse, because it brought the question, has often surpassed young people’s bearing capacity. Regardless in physiological aspect, in psychological aspect; Also regardless of being the effect which at that time the sex appeal received, to after marriage sex life’s influence, the sexual intercourse had the ill-effect before the wedding.
However, the reality is unable to avoid, the sex act had wanted to come before the wedding to jump over is tacitly approved by the people, many people turn a blind eye regarding this. Several dozens years ago, the public opinion may the female who unmarried is pregnant first one compel the dead end, at the present is very being pregnant, hold wedding ceremony, when has sees. This is the social progress, the society backs up? At present, has wide divided opinions.
However, some point may affirm that is so long as were the mutual consent before the wedding the sexual intercourse, was in no way the treason and heresy (, only if hooliganisms and so on prostitution and incest), it were one normal physiology and the psychology reflected, is inevitable result which one kind of natural quality has not performed to stop very well. But, the sexual intercourse was illegal cohabitation after all before the wedding, it has violated the traditional morality, although some old morality is by no means correct, but it to stopped before the wedding the sex act, has its positive sense. However, the feudalistic thinking to natural constraining, is brutal, they deny the sexual desire blatantly, so-called ” the starving to death matter is small, the being disloyal matter is big ‘, has eliminated the happiness which heartlessly many men and women originally may enjoy. Just like Mr. Lu Xun said: “nothing but makes the unprincipled person to grow false for no reason, the good person many a person I the useless pain. “and, this spirit still paces back and forth until now in ours head.
But, “the nature was free ” sends to exaggerate before the wedding sex act’s rationality and the advantage wantonly, even advocated that ” tried to marry “. These violent viewpoints are obviously wrong, its result can only bring the abortion, the illegitimate child, the crime and so on a series of social question, is to love, the marriage, the society enormous irresponsible, is one kind preliminary, animalistic carnal desire principle. Some people present in the abdomen life of the children to get married, but must stems from two person of love, finally, waited for that they are after marriage tragedies.
That kind ” related in any case has basically determined, simply “in advance for quick” the idea, was extremely the danger. And did not discuss that the sexual intercourse will give the men and women before the wedding both sides the injury which in the physiology, the psychology created, the light on the sexual morality to men’s and women’s twofold standard, caused the female to become before the wedding the sexual intercourse key victim, the male should not step out this step. The people as if can tolerate a male and many females have the sexual relationship, but cannot allow the female to have goes off course the behavior, this is one kind of male and female not equal performance, is extremely unfair. Must eliminate this unfair phenomenon, is not called the woman to look like the man to indulge equally, but is the position in aspects and so on sex act, public relations, the men and women should have the same level authority. Needed to be self-possessed, the self-respect as the female, the impediment before the wedding the sexual intercourse occurrence, because in the end, what was most bad luck was female.
