Also more than 50 days wanted the college entrance examination, but Wen Xinque couldn’t how also install the heart to make a round trip the custom schoolwork. Originally, she recalls to mind herself suddenly in 6 year old of that year, once had been raped by 18 year-old youths. She worried that hymen’s breakage through the college entrance examination physical examination, worried with difficulty he will be unable facing future boyfriend. Wen Xin inquired repeatedly in the letter that “I actually also am the maiden? Whether my experience will affect future marriage?” From the physiology, Wen Xin the worry is unnecessary. Generally speaking, the girl not yet grows in the childhood and the school age period reproductive organ maturely, and the hymen position is deep, the colpostegnosis, adult’s penis is unable to enter, therefore, even if suffers the human indecent, to rape, also very little has the hymen breakage. Moreover, the domestic any physical examination (including pre-marital physical examination) does not inspect the hymen at present.
Looking from the psychological stratification plane, the injury which the article heart receives is also estimates with difficulty. Because this experiences cause the article to feel in one’s heart, oneself have been no longer chaste, does not match obtains the good boy’s love. The majority has the similar experience girls to feel to own future despairs, they even place hopes in “the hymen plastic operation which” in the advertisement said that hoped that ended that section of shame experience through a surgery, obtained has loves with the right which liked resembling.
However, a hymen - cover in vaginal orifice thin film, really can a load bearing female’s complete life value?
In ours society, still many people “the chastity which” regarded the hymen to represent, therefore, Wen Xinmen will appear to future worry that the nature, then might understand.
In some countries, the people are familiar with on treat as the complete hymen maiden’s mark, some countries believed that the hymen is mystical, its destruction is the risk, is the evil. Therefore, if a young girl’s hymen in already burst before the wedding, she will receive the torture, even is killed. Some sexual intercourse also believed that the man and the maiden intersect, may maximum limit pick makes up cloudy positive, builds up one’s health the longevity ……
However, the sexology and the medicine develop today, the people realized more and more clearly, these ideas are not correct. According to the clinical observation and the research, gynecology department doctor may describe hymen’s 17 kind of shape extremely origin to you, bursts in the sexual intercourse the hemorrhage is only one kind for the first time. For instance, when some person birth does not have the hymen, some person hymen has been torn in the strenuous exercise, some person hymen opening congenital is greatly loose, ……These females possibly do not have the hemorrhage and the ache in the wedding night. Moreover, the nature is one kind of total involvement investment activity, its quality’s height has nothing to do with the hymen itself. Obviously because the female the hymen lacks, if bursts suffers the shame and the maltreatment, is not perfectly justified, but is the unfair social phenomenon.
Our country sociologist Professor Pan Suiming pointed out that if we penetrate to the natural activity and the sex power and influence relations level looked, will discover, the traditional male power society will not be appreciates the hymen itself, but will use it to oppress the female.
Looks that we social reality, we are how also unable to suspect Professor Pan’s judgment. Have some how many had before the wedding or outside the marriage the sexual relationship male will worry that own “will be unclean” is unable facing future girlfriend and the wife? Because he the public opinion will direct is unable “to marry” the human? A man might “in have several lovers before the wedding, in after marriage had several sweetheart, only when marriage, must wanted to result in chastely can the chaste female be the wife”, but, his wife actually must take full responsibility for her “the chastity” ……Therefore, the hymen became the society to implement the dual moral standards the physiological basis, became the society to constrain and to fetter nature of the woman natural reason especially.
Professor Pan Suiming further pointed out that if a person, a society were also believing that the hymen has any value, that this person or this society certainly were still the men and women are not equal. In a male and female not equal society, does not have the sincere love to say. The society more is stressed that hymen’s ethical value, the female more is wants to go all out to defend this “the final protective line”, more was equal to said that so long as this membrane not broken, other anything nature activity might do.
Professor Pan Suiming and in 1995 investigated Beijing all university students separately in 1991, discovered that has the sexual intercourse gathers (hymen certainly breakage) the human truly only then 8% to 9%, but has all sorts of natural caress behavior person actually to reach as high as about 30%. Even if within investigation a half year, has had the caress person also compared to true sexual intercourse person many 3 times. Here said the natural caress, is refers to surpasses kisses, has the contact until the bilateral reproductive organ actually not to have insertion each behavior. Looking from the sexology angle, these caress behavior and the true sexual intercourse unites the type, may also initiate the sexual climax, the acquired character satisfies, is also out-and-out “the sex act”. But, according to society’s standard, how both sides to caress, the caress is much deep, both sides were still “the pure and chaste”. Finally, some people to maintain “the maiden body”, has done including the fellatio and the anal sex, has not inserted the vagina only, therefore, they in the same old way are also infatuated with in their “the chastity”.
This kind “in the technical maiden”, this kind “is the narrow chastity” also not very false, is not very absurd? What should modern people’s chastity be? It should not be hymen completeness formally, but should love loyalty, moreover this kind loyal should be mutual.
These at young time receives the violent girl is not “not the pure and chaste”, but because incapable protected itself to receive the injury, regardless of her hymen whether to burst, she received the injury was sincerest. This kind of injury’s essence is not a nature, but is her personhood’s right. If your lover is beaten by others wounds, you most direct response can be suspected that he (she) loses loyally to you?
Was not each has the sexual relationship girls was before the wedding to loves not
